The 4 Step Guide To Finding Your Personal Success Mindset

What is it that makes one person feel successful and another one not? Is it an innate sense of confidence? Is it a full bank account? Is it love, adoration, or recognition? Thankfully, success is one of those things that only we can define for ourselves. But defining success and reaching a mindset of personal acceptance can be one of the most difficult things to accomplish.

When it comes to reaching your goals, measuring a balance of hard work vs. mindset should tip significantly toward mindset. Unfortunately, we live in a society where hustle, and long hours, and burn out are seen as badges of honor. Wondering how to steer clear of the stress and anxiety while still working toward your big goals? Here are a few ideas to get you started.

1) Attract positive energy

Act successful before you feel successful. The sentiment behind “fake it ‘til you make it” is good, but often misguided. Let’s take it a step farther. The goal is not to be deceptive to others while we figure things out, the goal is to train your brain to believe you are already there. Not from a materialistic or financial standpoint, but an emotional one. What will success feel like to you? How will your decision making change when you are successful? Who will you surround yourself with each day? Will you treat people differently?

Be the person you want to be today, not tomorrow. Act like you are successful and you will be successful.

2) Reframe your money mindset

So many of the negative, limiting beliefs about money we have come from our own personal beliefs. Money simply represents a number, a number that we attach meaning to. A $10 paycheck is too small but a $10 cup of coffee is too expensive. A beautiful house in a small sleepy town might cost $80,000 but that same house in Chicago would cost $400,000. We attach meaning to everything and try and create prices to match.

This means determining your success by the size of your bank account is completely futile. How much money do you “need” vs. how much money do you “want?” Having more money might make your lifestyle more comfortable, enable you to take more vacations, or eat at fancier restaurants, but don’t be tempted to confuse financial richness with personal richness.

3) Failure is essential

One thing that successful people are really good at is their ability to move past failure. Things go wrong, plans fail, and circumstances beyond our control happen every day. Instead of dwelling on what went wrong or letting yourself feel inadequate, shift your mindset to a place of gratitude and education. What did you learn from the failure? What will you do differently next time?

The ability to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and try again is essential to reaching any goal in life.

4) Gratitude and Service

When you function from a place of giving to others, being grateful for what you have, and recognizing the abundance in your everyday life, you train your mind to gravitate toward that mindset. So many morning routines start with journaling and meditation for this exact reason. Set your day up for success and positivity from the moment you rise and watch as the negativity in your world lessons.

Before anything else, you must define what success means for you. While five million dollars in the bank and three houses might sound like the dream to some, a small sustainable farm, a happy marriage, a college degree, or three kids who love the outdoors is more than enough for many others.

Listen to your heart and follow your own ideals of success. Never measure yourself against anyone else – you cannot know what they’ve been through to get to where they are today.